Life, leadership, & relationship coaching for sex workers, femmes, queers & women
I envision a world in which we’re all free to be exactly who we are.
A world in which our individual radiance is recognized, cherished and celebrated.
A world where we never have to dim our shine because we know, without a doubt, that each of us is uniquely brilliant and worthy of respect.
As sex workers, femmes, queer folks, and women, we’re so often led to believe that we are not enough. That we’re unlovable, or that our skills are not useful. Our wisdom is dismissed and gets repeatedly shoved away into hidden corners.
We’re forced to fight to take up space -- in public, at work, in our creative endeavors, and even in love. We’re encouraged to discount our intuition and swallow the myths we’re fed that starve us of our power.
Now, more than ever, we need intersectionally-competent visionaries and leaders. We need confident artists, lovers, dreamers, teachers, and healers to create a world in which we all belong without question. To rise up against the current systems that try to choke us off from our inherent wisdom.
Now more than ever, we need more of us following that aching in our hearts that seems to make no logical sense. The whisper that tells us there is more out there than what we’re currently experiencing.
If you’re reading this, there’s a good chance that time has come for you.
The time to be done playing small and putting your desires on the backburner. The time to go after that dream career, your dream love life, or bring that dream project into existence. The time to prioritize the yearnings of your soul and start living boldly.
The time has come for you to become a force to be reckoned with.
I'm here to give you the practical tools to help you make your dreams a reality.
I don’t bypass the way oppressive systems limit our understanding of ourselves, each other, and the worlds that contain us. I get to the root of how our personal and collective experiences inform what we believe is possible for ourselves.
I’m here to validate your struggles and help excavate your power wherever you feel you’ve lost it.
I’m here to help contextualize your stuckness, connect the dots you’re not seeing, and encourage you to claim the vibrant life you know deep in your heart you’re here to have.
We’ll take the mystery out of why relationships, career goals, creative projects, and time management skills feel so impossible to attain.
We'll create an actionable plan to get you from where you are now to where you want to be, and I will hold you accountable and cheer you on as you put the plan into motion.
I work with a lot of folks who have trouble with time management. When we feel like we can barely keep up with the pace of our life, it can feel overwhelming or impossible to actually make progress on the big changes we want to bring about.
As your resident neurodivergent Virgo witch, it is my joy to help my fellow squid-brained babes figure out how to create structure in their lives, so that they can actually build momentum towards their goals, and get closer to where they want to be.
Together, we'll develop time management and organization systems that work with your unique brain and life to create the focus and consistency you need to stay the course for your dreams.
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"Working with Leilah, I feel so empowered and focused, which is not easy for an ADHD babe like me. I got so much done for my podcast launch and know exactly what to do next. Leilah is the art slut's art slut."
"Leilah managed to take my weird thought bubbles about what I wanted to do with my life and turn them into goals with tangible, achievable steps forward. I now have a solid plan for this year and beyond. She was extremely patient, and her creative thinking combined with her anti-capitalist approach broke open the gates of my limiting beliefs. Now I have the confidence to show up for myself. I'm excited to take the lessons and guidance from our sessions into my business & personal life!"
"Since our first session, I’ve hired an executive assistant, an account manager, a designer, and added a peer group of business owners to my life. I also made more time at night to vibe out for myself. Just killed a blunt and enjoying some music at the moment. In other words, I’m doing a lot better. I am feeling more creative and supported. Your coaching was definitely part of the process. Your insight and warmth are terrific."
"I was working with a therapy client who is dealing with gaslighting and emotional abuse. I referenced your work because I could see SO MUCH in her dynamics, thanks to your podcast, coaching, and workshops. This has been the case several times since I met you. I have recommended your work to other therapists, students, and other professionals. It's so in-depth and thoughtful. You create a wonderful, safe container!"
Sex workers and femmes are often forced to contend with others' judgments, misinformed ideas, and stigma about us, making the already-vulnerable world of love exponentially (and unnecessarily) trickier.
In my Love Life Coaching, I help you navigate your personal situation, and also the societal pressures we face as not only sex workers and femmes, but, often, other marginalized identities as well (queer, trans, BIPOC, fat, neurodiverse, etc).
Whether you’re facing issues with a relationship, a breakup, dating, family/friends, or something in between, I’ll help you figure out a plan to get you from where you are now to where you want to be.
"I came to Leilah for coaching because, although I see a supportive, sex worker friendly therapist, there were some work-related love life issues we weren’t making progress on. Talking about them in a goal-oriented way with Leilah, who truly gets my experiences, made all the difference. It felt like she wiped the fog off a window; I felt seen *and* I have a different way of seeing my situation"
"Leilah helped me learn to affirm my worth. With her coaching, I quit an unfulfilling job and broke up with a long-term partner who did not celebrate me in the way I needed, and I began cultivating loving, affirming relationships in all areas of my life. As daily practices, I now pursue rest, negotiate and set boundaries, and build personal infrastructures that help me envision and pursue my wildest dreams."
"Working with Leilah has really made me double back at myself whenever my instinct tells me that I am moving off of shame and suppressing my self expression. Working with her taught me to question where I expend my energy with people and places, because if I cannot be around people who make me feel proud of myself and allow me to be in my power, why am I around them? She pushed me to lean deeper into breaking the cycle whenever I realize that I am betraying the goddess in me."
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This kind of transformation doesn’t happen overnight. It’s the gradual work of showing up and making choices that aren’t always familiar and aren’t always comfortable.
What precedes the sparkly results is the not-so-glamorous process of deep reflection and integration. The angst that arises when your inner world rearranges before your outer world does. The big, sometimes challenging, emotions that seep in when everything you’ve outgrown begins to fall away.
I will hold you to it and through it. I'm here to remind you that the life you long to live isn’t as far away as you think.
It’s already here, just waiting for you to choose it -- little by little, step by step -- with all your heart, one day at a time.
Ready to cultivate your confidence so that you can make bold decisions in the name of your dreams?
Ready to banish self-doubt so that you can claim your power?
Are you ready to become unstoppable?
We’ll chat about where you are and where you’d like to go, how I can support you, and feel out if we’re a good fit to work together.
$5555 (sex workers can opt for 10% off and BIPOC can opt for 20% off). Payment plans available.